random quotes ... to amuse, inspire, enrage:
  This is what you should do: love the earth and sun and the animals, despise riches, give alms to everyone that asks, stand up for the stupid and crazy, devote your income and labor to others, hate tyrants, argue not concerning God, have patience and indulgence toward the people, take off your hat to nothing known or unknown or to any man or number of men ... re-examine all you have been told at school or church or in any book, dismiss what insults your own soul, and your very flesh shall be a great poem.

tagged: animals, critical thinking, living life, generosity
  —Walt Whitman

marital happiness, kids, and, umm, housework

Tuesday, January 20th, 2009

The New York Times covers research showing that marital happiness increases when the kids leave home. Contrary to popular opinion, which has suggested that parents — particularly moms — suffer depression from “empty nest syndrome”, research published in November in Psychological Science found that “marital satisfaction actually improves” when the kids leave home. But if […]

Mildred Jeter Loving, RIP

Monday, May 5th, 2008

This just in from AP: Mildred Jeter Loving, of Loving v. Virginia, passed away on Friday 5/2. A longer obit from the NYT. “Mildred’s mother was part Rappahannock Indian, and her father was part Cherokee. She preferred to think of herself as Indian rather than black.” I can’t tell if that was throughout her life, […]

back to mormons and forced “marriage”

Tuesday, April 29th, 2008

Source: More Clarity About Abuse, Intermarriage, Child Breeders, andthe Fundamentalist Churchof Later Day Saints, Sara Robinson, Orcinus, 2008/4/25 [Warren] Jeffs was convicted last year in Utah of forcing a 14-year-old girl into marriage with an older cousin. I’m sick of these quotes that just talk about “marriage” and accept the use of that word. If […]

the missing “than”

Sunday, March 2nd, 2008

The NYT had the germ of an interesting idea today: What I’d Be Talking About if I Were Still Running, op-eds from presidential candidates who have dropped out. It was only a germ because it turned out that the op-eds were only very short, virtually substance-less talking point-level comments. Now if the NYT followed this […]

positive about civil unions

Friday, August 10th, 2007

In last night’s Democratic candidate debate about The Gays, Clinton explained that she’s not anti-gay marriage: “I prefer to think of it as being very positive about civil unions.” As Michele (my Massachusetts spouse) said: “If she’s so positive, why doesn’t *she* get one.”

political grandstanding: SO annoying

Saturday, November 25th, 2006

I really can’t stand it when politicians engage in cheap & sleazy grandstanding, knowing that what they’re doing is actually irrelevant. I’m speaking of Mitt Romney’s “lawsuit” to get the Mass. courts to step in to force the Mass. legislature to vote on an anti-same-sex-marriage amendment. [nyt 11/25] Cheap & sleazy political grandstanding may be […]

women, families, tenure

Thursday, November 2nd, 2006

Surprise, having kids and a husband* make it less likely that women will get tenure-track positions or achieve tenure. See the “Marriage and Baby Blues: Re-defining Gender Equity” report (PDF) by Mary Ann Mason and Marc Goulden (2003). Thanks to my partner (a postdoc) who sent me this illustrative graphic from the report. … * […]

NJ SSM decision

Wednesday, October 25th, 2006

The NJ Supreme Court is releasing its SSM decision today @ 3pm. [available at NJSC website] Will they help us out but energize the Republicans and lead to queers being blamed if the Dems don’t take the House or Senate? or will they fuck us over leaving everyone, but us, happy? (And if I’m writing […]

what is rational: rationally angry about irrational decisions

Thursday, July 6th, 2006

NY’s Court of Appeals just handed down its no-same-sex-marriage decision, holding that denying marriage licenses on the basis of gender to same-sex partners does not violate New York’s Constitution. In my opinion, this is a big setback for equal protection and individual autonomy. We had a certain momentum going forward in terms of courts accepting […]

gayness

Friday, June 9th, 2006

* Alas (a blog) has deemed Father’s Day “queer sex day” for very good reasons. * Jon Stewart points out the obvious to Bill Bennett’s proffered state rationale for recognizing only male-female marriages: Divorce doesn’t occur because 50% of marriages end in gayness. * New York’s highest court (the confusingly named “Court of Appeals”) heard […]

marriage under attack in massachusetts

Thursday, March 30th, 2006

The Supreme Judicial Court of Massachusetts finally issued its ruling on out-of-state residents marrying in Massachusetts, upholding a previously moribund statute that had been dusted off especially for same-sex marriages. [nyt 3/30; Cote-Whiteacre v. Mass. Dept. of Public Health, SJC-09436 (Mass. SJC 2006/3/30)]

name changes & blog comment-discussion threads

Monday, May 23rd, 2005

A couple of blogs [Matthew Yglesias, Volokh Conspiracy 1 and 2] have been running long comment-thread arguments about US women changing their names on marriage. Most comments fall into one of a few categories: Rationalizing / defensive about the decision w/in their marriage for the woman to change her last name to the man’s: “It […]

where is the heavenly response?

Monday, May 16th, 2005

on may 17th, it will have been a whole year since Mass. started providing same-sex marriage licenses, and i’m still waiting for the quick and appropriate heavenly response. maybe the very cold weather here in mass., which seems unseasonable to me, is the heavenly response? my same-sex semi-lawfully wed spouse & i will keep a […]

Canada Supreme Court OKs SSM

Thursday, December 9th, 2004

Canada’s Supreme Court has given its official advisory opinion re: same-sex marriage, basically giving the green light to federal legislation to authorize same-sex marriage nation-wide. The Yukon Territory and six of ten provinces have already struck down opposite-sex-only marriage requirements, allowing couples to marry regardless of gender. [cite - from ping] — News | canada.com […]

marriage

Monday, November 29th, 2004

11/29 update: not surprising but the Supreme Court denied a cert petition to overturn the Mass marriage ruling. [cnn 11/29]

defense of marriage

Monday, November 29th, 2004

The Christian Right and the Sanctity of Marriage As we all know, the Christian Right has now made defense of the institution of marriage, as defined as a union of a man and woman, not only its top political priority, but the very touchstone of Christian moral responsibility. I’ve always found this rather ironic, since […]

same-sex marriage decisions

Wednesday, October 6th, 2004

Newfoundland, Canada: lawsuit launched for same-sex marriage [365gay.com 11/5] 2004-11-05: Saskatchewan legalized same-sex marriage, the 7th Canadian province to do so (British Columbia, Ontario, Quebec, Manitoba, Nova Scotia, and the Yukon Territory). Four of the plaintiff couples sought to get married in Saskatchewan and a fifth couple sought recognition of its British Columbian marriage. Oral […]


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